True Loyal Friends
Respect, Manners and Failures
…just some griefing thoughts about the loss of morals, respect and manners! Have you ever wondered, why real friendships in this 21st century seem to be a ‘mission impossible’? What is wrong with people nowadays, what is going on in this world? Why do people perform so aggressive and reckless?
How easy and meaningless use people the terms ‘friends’ or ‘real friendships’ these days and do they actually really care? If you are lucky and you have got true loyal friends, or you experience other people being true loyal friends to each other, be sure these friends are friends for decades already. It seems, that nowadays such stuff as loyalty, honesty and respect obviously doesn’t count anymore.
Yeah, sure .. you’ll find thousands of wise love and friendship poems about all that, but in real life, it seems to be just utopia or fantasy! When exactly did we give up on values, since when is RESPECT an extraterrestrial mystery? Are manners out of fashion as well? If you get to see, how some contemporaries communicate with each other, it just makes you wonder.
I have experienced a few of these so-called ‘keyboard warriors’ before, especially these on FaceBook – feeling safe and mighty under the cap of invisibility – offending others and behaving like uneducated savages. What for? What is the pleasure in presenting yourself as bad as possible? What do you gain from that? Thanks a bunch for the ‘block option’ on FaceBook. Just one click and woooshhhh … and peace to me. I have got only that one life, and I am not willing to have it poisoned by miserable people.
Have you ever noticed, how some people change out from nowhere and nothing? You follow a conversation, for example, just a random unimportant chat about things and stuff, all funny, all friendly, a good giggle all together. And then all of a sudden, the whole conversation shifts from light to surreal and ends up in you getting offended by people, getting things thrown at you, that you wouldn’t throw at your worst enemy.
That’s so not my cup of tea… I believe in respecting people and treating people the way I would like to be treated. (And I also believe in karma!) I have asked myself so many times, what parents have raised these guys? Is this a matter of ‘new generation rules’? All, that we have learned and been given by our parents, just a waste of time? All use- and pointless?
I might be old-fashioned, but if having manners implies being old-fashioned, I love being old-fashioned! I am over 50 years old and have met so many people from all countries, backgrounds, different cultures and nationalities. I have come across a lot in my life, have been through a lot, as we all have. But I have never failed in respecting others! If somebody can’t control his (or her) own temper and words, how easy to blame everybody else and give others a hard time!
People are joining heaps of online groups, webinars and courses, they call it ‘self-improvement’! Self- improvement, in my opinion, starts with yourself, start improving on your own basic social manners before participating in civilized friendly conversations! I really think I am getting too old and tired for this behaviour, I had to deal with all this as a teenager, 30~40 years ago, just not as mean as nowadays.
Actually, isn’t it a pity… how easy could we live in peace and harmony and have a good time while we are here?! Why do some people love stress and dispute? Do they need that to be happy? Is this the ‘air that they breathe’, their daily feeling of success? Is life not tough enough anyway? Do they need to put a spoke in other’s wheel?
Sometimes I am not sure, should I, after all, feel sorry for those people, who can’t just go with the flow and enjoy the little things in life? Who can’t just live and let live, without giving others a hard time, just because they are not happy themselves with what they’ve got? Oh dear, what’s wrong? I think I have never before been happier about getting older.
How lucky are we oldies, we had the privilege to learn, how to behave and what really matters in this life …. how blessed are we!
If you don’t agree or have a different point of view or even an explanation for this common rudeness, I would love to read about in the comments.
Cheers, Klaudia xx
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