Prenuptial Agreement Contract
– The Pros & Cons –
… if he asks you to sign a prenuptial agreement contract
Love is a complicated thing, isn’t it? There are the steps that we all believe love follows: dating, engagement, marriage. In there, you fall in love, you move in together, you have a family and you plan for the future as you go along. Among all the happiness, your new husband-to-be has lovingly handed you a thick document with the words a complicated thing, isn’t it? There are the steps that we all believe love follows: dating, engagement, marriage.
In there, you fall in love, you move in together, you have a family and you plan for the future as you go along. Among all the happiness, your new husband-to-be has lovingly handed you a thick document with the words ‘prenuptial agreement’ written across the top.
Generally, there are two opinions on a prenuptial agreement contract. The first is that he must think you are a gold digger, that you’re after all his worldly treasures and have no plans on forever. The other is to protect each other in the procedure of a divorce down the road. Thankfully, your partner isn’t automatically calling you a gold digger by presenting you with a prenuptial agreement form to sign.
They have a little bit of a stigma attached to them that they mean that you won’t see the happily ever after, but really, they can be something that helps both parties. If you go into marriage from very different financial backgrounds and have no intention of changing that, it’s a great reason to get a prenup. It says that if you do divorce, you don’t want anything from him that you wouldn’t pay for yourself.
Getting specific advice from family law services or prenuptial lawyers is always a good road to go down when you are asked to sign a prenup. If you are going into married life with financial solvency that is separate from the relationship, it isn’t a bad thing to want to keep it that way.
Marriage doesn’t always mean ‘what’s mine is his and what’s his is mine’. Some couples out there want to keep their financial situation before marriage separate, such as debt, and only deal with the finances together after the vows. That is becoming more and more normal as time goes on.
No one goes into marriage thinking it will all end in tears and divorce. It’s far more common to think of the sunset walks hand in hand at a golden age and be excited by that. Unfortunately, life and love do not always go that way. Planning for a ‘just in case’ situation with a prenuptial agreement contract is no different to purchasing a life insurance ‘just in case’ of an accident.
Instead of jumping the gun and getting offended that you’ve been asked to sign a prenup, sit down and understand the reasons. The prenup you sign is most likely just a piece of paper you shove into a drawer and never see again after the wedding.
You may not be able to see past the stigma, and that’s okay. If you cannot agree to sign such a document, seek the help of a counsellor. You need to be able to talk through the issue and work out if it’s something you can compromise on. A prenup, for some couples, can be a deal breaker.
If you are still not sure whether to be hurt or happy about him wanting you to sign a prenup, you can find some sites that offer a free prenuptial agreement form you could look at to get more familiar with the idea. Approach the situation with a clear head, and you can move forward stronger together.
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I guess I wouldn’t mind be asked to sign a pre-nup because it would mean that someone actually wanted to marry me…and she’s rich! 🙂
wuaaaah, yeah, you see??? My saying, a prenup isn’t just a bad thing 😉