Finding Mister Right
Why Are Bad Boys So Damn Attractive?
Alpha male or softie, how to detect good husband traits in a man? Today’s males are getting more compassionate and connecting with their sensitive side, and because of this, being in a relationship with a sensitive male is different to the one you would have with a traditional ‘real alpha male’.
Ever wondered why so many women fall for machos, latin lovers and bad boys? More fun, more adventure, more thrill? Probably yes …but would he make a good husband, father, a reliable partner for life?
It will absolutely be more tempting to play with fire… all your friends might be envious, cause you call that object of desire your! man, that guy all girls would love to go out with. But is that the main essential ‘talent’ a man should provide, an outrageously good look wrapped in voguish brand clothes, posing as tough as possible. Does that make a guy a real man?
Or is not sensitivity, understanding, caring for others and gentleness a lot more attractive? Sensitivity is an important trait because relationships are complicated, and they could become problematic if one or both partners stop interacting, remain angry, or play the blame game.
It can be difficult to be in a loving relationship with a man who is not in touch with his ‘male feminine side’. If they aren’t in touch with their emotions, it’s often hard to tell where they stand and even harder to get a true picture of how they feel.
The sensitive guy is not afraid to show his love and affection for his partner. He does so in both, big (the special romantic vacation) and small (cooking her dinner whenever she is tired). When there is an argument between a sensitive male and his partner, there isn’t any name calling or yelling, and they both fight fair. He expresses his emotions and feelings, listens to his partner as she expresses hers and looks for a solution that leads to a good compromise. Certainly, he will get angry at times, but he bounces back and gets over it very quickly. A sensitive man cares about the feelings of others and will feel bad if he hurts someone else’s feelings.
He keeps his pride in check and doesn’t feel the need to be the smartest, most attractive, or the most fascinating man in the room. He will always fit easily into any situation. In terms of making social plans, a sensitive guy finds a good rhythm between doing what he wants and engaging in what other people want. He seems to be aware of when it’s important to lead and when to follow.
What many girls search for in a partner is someone who will be caring and love them. A sensitive man will care for your wants and needs, your desires and demands and will make sure that you are happy.Your feelings matter to him. It’s this quality of a sensitive caring man that shows you he will never intentionally hurt you and he can be trusted with your heart.
A sensitive man is always a gentleman! He treats people with respect and has an almost chivalrous way about him. Whether it’s your friends, family or associates, he will be well liked because he is genuine. Sensitive men are always equipped with good husband traits because they highly value long-term commitments. When they enter into a relationship they do so with their whole heart. His family will always come first!
He will be able to help navigate life’s challenges without too much emotional turmoil symptoms because he is grounded in who he is and in his relationships. Don’t mistake a sensitive guy for an unrealistic one. He can stand his ground when necessary but does so with respect and logic. He might trust his intuition and let it guide him, but he still has control of his emotions when it matters most. He is anything but a pushover. A sensitive man stands firm in his beliefs because they are his guiding voice!
If all this makes a sensitive man a ‘softie’, then go for that softie. The bad guys might be more alluring, but the good guys are the solid fundaments for life. But keep in mind, all this works solely by mutual agreement. It’s a constant deal of giving and taking. Love, respect and understanding do not work in a ‘one-way direction’.
Expect a human being, not somebody ideal and perfect. Nobody is going to be all you have ever longed for. You already know that you are not Ms Perfect either. He will certainly make mistakes, relax a little and don’t be too picky. Remain open to human frailty. Look beyond physical attractiveness.
Hold your horses and be patient. Remember, Rome wasn’t built in one day. It may take a while to uncover what appeals to you. You might make a couple of good pals, and even break a heart or two. You might get hurt. That’s all just part of the game, hold onto it, there are good men out there. On your mission to finding Mister Right, the most important thing to do is avoiding Mister Wrong!
Having been once married to the stupid ass bad boy and now to the sensitive sweety, I can honestly say that I’ll take the sensitive sweety EVERY day! Being in a relationship with someone who puts you first is such a turn on! I don’t care about swagger anymore.
…and getting the best chocolate on top of this, Jennifer !!! You are truly blessed, lol. Thanks a lot for coming over 🙂
I wish I knew why bad boys are so damn attractive, as you put it LOL! I think some of it is the element of mystery and danger. I happened to once to be attracted to this kind of guy and I think it was because he made me feel so alive when I felt my world was mundane at best. 🙂 My hope now though is to find a combination of the two…why should I have to choose?!
Right, Kristi, why do we have to choose?! Anyhow, good luck with finding Mister Damn Right 😉
Good looking men are okay only in the fancy relationship.. If someone wants to enjoy a loving long term relationship then decent men are the obvious choice…
Very true, Jess! Thanks a lot for visiting 🙂
I believe that everybody has their own opinions when it comes down to finding “Mr Right” and each person has a different personality so it just depends if your personality can basically match with somebody else.
IMO, all boys are alpha males when dealing w/ woman whom they’re not in-love with. And the moment they find the right woman, he becomes the sensitive man.
Woman should understand what a man looks for in a serious relationship to awaken the sensitive man from within. Otherwise, the man will just be on the playful alpha male mode.
I think finding Mr. Right depends on personal standards. Meaning, it’s not definite. It has different perspectives. But I hope every woman finds her Mr. Right that will take care of her, understand her, and accept her as she is.
I’ve been attracted to bad boys but never really had relationships with them. I guess it’s the natural woman’s instinct to want to be noticed by men who are so manly and beautiful. In relationships though I want a man who is sensitive, but I certainly want him to be good looking as well. I’m not wishing for a Brad Pitt, but I want a man I am attracted to physically, at least.
I’m the mister sensitive LOL. I really do care and respect others. I would love t hear partners problems and anthing that bothering them. Girls have different taste for men and different meaning for the ‘perfect man’.
Oh boy, this is an extremely difficult topic that can never be fully covered even with multiple posts. You see, what an ideal male person should be in complimentary to women. No one is exactly the same. There are cultural differences, economic (social class) differences that affects the way a person thinks and acts.
Having said that, at the core of most males more women wants is someone who could understand them, and being sensitive is a step in that direction.
Wow! That’s a tough act to follow. Mr. Sensitive, by the way he was being described, sounds like Mr. Perfect too. I thought they don’t exist anymore. But at the end of your article, you mentioned that Mr. Sensitive can create mistakes too and that gave the ladies hope and other men a chance.
I think Mr Bad guy is Mr Trouble too. If a lady is attracted to him because of just his looks and the challenge, that’s a recipe for a failed relationship. I believe that for a relationship to be successful, you just have to set your negotiables and non-negotiables first. Even if the person lacks the qualities of Mr Sensitive, if you think you can live with that, then continue to get to know the person more.
Final thought: It always takes two to tango. We must make sure that we,ourselves, would want to be in a relationship with us.
Thanks a lot Dominic , absolutely agree with all you’re saying .
I have never been the person to like the bad boy. I want someone put together and ready for a future even when I was young. I like responsibility and ambition and someone that works hard. I think finding the sensitive person that fits to you is important. Each person needs someone who can help them personally through life and definitely not Mr. Wrong or Mr. Right NOW! 🙂
Thanks , Alison ! LOL , yeah I forgot about Mr .Right NOW 🙂 ( and how could I , tomorrow ) 😉 I love your attitude , having standards is very important in life !