Finding Mister Right
Why Are Bad Boys So Damn Attractive?
Alpha male or softie, how to detect good husband traits in a man? Today’s males are getting more compassionate and connecting with their sensitive side, and because of this, being in a relationship with a sensitive male is different to the one you would have with a traditional ‘real alpha male’.
Ever wondered why so many women fall for machos, latin lovers and bad boys? More fun, more adventure, more thrill? Probably yes …but would he make a good husband, father, a reliable partner for life?
It will absolutely be more tempting to play with fire… all your friends might be envious, cause you call that object of desire your! man, that guy all girls would love to go out with. But is that the main essential ‘talent’ a man should provide, an outrageously good look wrapped in voguish brand clothes, posing as tough as possible. Does that make a guy a real man?
Or is not sensitivity, understanding, caring for others and gentleness a lot more attractive? Sensitivity is an important trait because relationships are complicated, and they could become problematic if one or both partners stop interacting, remain angry, or play the blame game.
It can be difficult to be in a loving relationship with a man who is not in touch with his ‘male feminine side’. If they aren’t in touch with their emotions, it’s often hard to tell where they stand and even harder to get a true picture of how they feel.
The sensitive guy is not afraid to show his love and affection for his partner. He does so in both, big (the special romantic vacation) and small (cooking her dinner whenever she is tired). When there is an argument between a sensitive male and his partner, there isn’t any name calling or yelling, and they both fight fair. He expresses his emotions and feelings, listens to his partner as she expresses hers and looks for a solution that leads to a good compromise. Certainly, he will get angry at times, but he bounces back and gets over it very quickly. A sensitive man cares about the feelings of others and will feel bad if he hurts someone else’s feelings.
He keeps his pride in check and doesn’t feel the need to be the smartest, most attractive, or the most fascinating man in the room. He will always fit easily into any situation. In terms of making social plans, a sensitive guy finds a good rhythm between doing what he wants and engaging in what other people want. He seems to be aware of when it’s important to lead and when to follow.
What many girls search for in a partner is someone who will be caring and love them. A sensitive man will care for your wants and needs, your desires and demands and will make sure that you are happy.Your feelings matter to him. It’s this quality of a sensitive caring man that shows you he will never intentionally hurt you and he can be trusted with your heart.
A sensitive man is always a gentleman! He treats people with respect and has an almost chivalrous way about him. Whether it’s your friends, family or associates, he will be well liked because he is genuine. Sensitive men are always equipped with good husband traits because they highly value long-term commitments. When they enter into a relationship they do so with their whole heart. His family will always come first!
He will be able to help navigate life’s challenges without too much emotional turmoil symptoms because he is grounded in who he is and in his relationships. Don’t mistake a sensitive guy for an unrealistic one. He can stand his ground when necessary but does so with respect and logic. He might trust his intuition and let it guide him, but he still has control of his emotions when it matters most. He is anything but a pushover. A sensitive man stands firm in his beliefs because they are his guiding voice!
If all this makes a sensitive man a ‘softie’, then go for that softie. The bad guys might be more alluring, but the good guys are the solid fundaments for life. But keep in mind, all this works solely by mutual agreement. It’s a constant deal of giving and taking. Love, respect and understanding do not work in a ‘one-way direction’.
Expect a human being, not somebody ideal and perfect. Nobody is going to be all you have ever longed for. You already know that you are not Ms Perfect either. He will certainly make mistakes, relax a little and don’t be too picky. Remain open to human frailty. Look beyond physical attractiveness.
Hold your horses and be patient. Remember, Rome wasn’t built in one day. It may take a while to uncover what appeals to you. You might make a couple of good pals, and even break a heart or two. You might get hurt. That’s all just part of the game, hold onto it, there are good men out there. On your mission to finding Mister Right, the most important thing to do is avoiding Mister Wrong!